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Gen 1:27-28, Ephesians 5: 21- 33

It is very important you don’t miss it when it comes to picking who to marry. If you marry wrongly, you can’t enjoy your life to the fullest.

Anything we call Christian is of Christ. So a Christian marriage starts with Christ. The basic foundation for a Christian marriage is for both the man and woman involved to be saved and redeemed!

In a Christian marriage, there is no room for divorce or exchange of spouse, as a result one needs a firm foundation in Jesus to be able to withstand some pressures that may arise.

There is time for everything, when it is time for you to settle down, the Holy spirit Himself will minister to you. When have the urge to getting married, don’t just rush into it, wait upon the Lord for directions (Isaiah 40:31).  Don’t go after your desires and lust, in waiting, ask, seek and knock. Ask God to show you His will for your life.

God’s will for your life could be revealed to you through dreams, visions, word of knowledge, word of God, deep convictions in the spirit.

Ladies, it is prohibited for you to go tell a man ‘You’re my husband’. Ladies never proposed to men in the Bible and anything outside the Bible isn’t the standard. It is all modern doctrine for a woman to go after the man, wait on God and He’ll bring the right person.

After waiting on God and He has shown you the revelation, don’t go to the person straight, go tell your pastor. That is RCCG doctrine! Tell your pastor so they can pray along and do some investigation about the person.

Also tell your parents about it! They also will pray and carry out any necessary background checks. In the midst of counsellors, you won’t go wrong!

When your pastor and parents have confirmed it, the man and woman then need to come into agreement. You start courtship.

In courtship, you don’t meet up in secret places, be transparent! Protect yourself from evil, don’t give room to the devil. There have been many sad stories of Christian singles getting pregnant before marriage. Have your meetings in an open place, e.g your pastors’ house.

Get to know each other during courtship. If you enter into marriage with deceit, you’ll reap it later! Show your true colours to your partner!

If in courtship, you realise the marriage won’t work, it is better to call it off, get out of it before it is too late!  A broken courtship is much better than a broken marriage.

During courtship, you need to go for counselling. All RCCG churches do marriage counselling, don’t try to avoid it, it will help you and the experiences of older couples will come in handy after the wedding.

After courtship and counselling have been successful, proceed to the altar!

The material benefits you get before marriage doesn’t determine how good the marriage will eventually be. The secret to many successful Christian marriage is contentment!

Don’t take a loan for marriage! Cut your coat according to your size!

Prepare your mind! You don’t know who you dated in courtship well enough until you start living together! 6years after the marriage you will still be discovering new things about the person.

Prayer is important even after the wedding as practical living is different from all the pre-martial/ honeymoon excitement!

After the wedding, women are to submit to their husbands! Even if you are older, still submit. Even when you don’t agree, submit first, be nice and put your suggestions forward in a nice and peaceful way!

As a woman, accept the leadership of your husband and respect him. If he can only afford ‘N20,000’ take it and use it wisely. You have to be able to manage resources very well!

In a marriage, there will be a time of plenty and time of scarcity! Endure, be patient with each other and manage what you have together.

The husband is the leader and priest of the family. Show your wife love, use no abusive languages on her, respect her, tolerate her and love her as Christ loves the church.

To experience an unstoppable Christian marriage, don’t allow a third party get involved in your marriage.

To experience an unstoppable Christian marriage, show each other what you expect in return. If you want peace in your marriage pursue peace, if you want laughter, laugh! Don’t frown at your spouse! If you want care in your marriage, care for your wife and she’ll shower you with care! If you give your wife 20% love, she’ll give you 120% love in return!

Apart from giving birth to children together, you are pray together, eat together, sleep together, suffer together, endure together, enjoy abundance together, train your children together, take care of your household together, and take care of your parents and siblings together. Mark 3:25

A good Christian home will bring you unstoppable joy, peace, good children, abundance and an open heaven!

To experience an unstoppable Christian marriage, start preparing for it now!  Pray about it, hand over every part of your life to God and He’ll make great plans for you!








May the LORD bless Nigeria, American and Israel and take care of us; May the LORD make His face shine upon us, And be gracious to us; May the Lord lift up His countenance upon us, And give us peace, In Jesus Christ Name, we pray! Amen!


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  4. Debora BEJIDE says:

    I really need help urgently in my marriage.


  5. Tony says:

    Pleas I have a question is it Lawful for someone to get married to his or ha cousin the relationship is very distant (the grandfather of the Woman is a younger brother to d man’s Grandmother and the father of the man is a cousin to the father of the woman i.e 1st cousin whilethe children of the first cousin are the once that intend to get married) pleas I really need a clear answer to this question because there are examples of people that were married from their family . Eleazar’s daughters each
    married first cousins, as they were instructed( I
    Chronicles 23:22). See below
    Forbidden Marriages Scripture
    Between parents and children -Leviticus 18:7-8
    Between stepparents and stepchildren-
    Leviticus 18:8, 17
    With your paternal or maternal aunt-Leviticus
    With your uncle or aunt -Leviticus 18:14
    Between brother and sister and half-brother
    and half-sister-Leviticus 18:9
    Between stepbrothers and stepsisters-Leviticus
    With your daughter-in-law -Leviticus 18:15
    With your sister-in-law -Leviticus 18:16
    With your granddaughter -Leviticus 18:10
    With your step-granddaughter -Leviticus 18:17
    However, it’s important to remember that
    many laws do condemn this type of marriage
    and Christians are commanded to “Submit
    yourselves to every ordinance of man for the
    Lord’s sake: whether it be to the king, as
    supreme; Or unto governors, as unto them that
    are sent by him for the punishment of
    evildoers, and for the praise of them that do
    well. For so is the will of God, that with well
    doing ye may put to silence the ignorance of
    foolish men” (1 Peter 2:13-15, See also Romans
    13:1-2). Pleas give biblical evidence of your answer no insult please thank you


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